My one step-sister had a rough time as a parent. She was an unwed teanage mother who got very little support until my mom stepped in. The father didn't help financially or emotionally he even eventually tried to kill her. Step-dad and I got home just in time and sort of straightened him out. Anyway she was uneducated and unskilled. She had a string of unsuccessful relationships and really struggled to make a life for herself. Her mother was a crack head and crack dealer. Her dad (my step-dad) is a giant failure as a father. Her step-dad tried to molest her on several occasions. She has finally made a nice life for herself with a good man and her daughter is all grown up. Anyway haad a rough life. She was a huge crack head and pot smoker.

I had a rough time growing up too although things turned out a little different for me. I joined the military, put myself through college. Married a good woman and then had children after I aquired a descent job. The problem is that she has this distorted vision that I had this wonderful life because her dad actually lived with us. Nevermind that he's a total douche but he was there so she os totally jealous.

She like Robert on Everybody Loves Ramon. When ever something good happens to me she just rolls her eyes. When something bad happens she appears to enjoy it. She makes all kinds of snide comments and is a total @#$%^ to me most of the time. But then sometimes she acts like she just loves me to death.

I don't talk to her unless I have to but my mom is always giving me crap saying she had a rough life give her a break. I appreciate the fact that she had a rough life but we all have obstacles and it's up to us to overcome them.

My mother cries sometimes because my sister and I are not close. It's hard but the girl is just too mean.a

One example of her treachery is that she made a family album for my parents of all or their kids and grandkids but left me and my family totally out of it. There isn't a single picture of me, my wife or my kids in the book.

I wish my mom would just quit trying to force relationships with this family. We just don't fit. It's been 27 years and we are still not a fmaily.

See part of the problem IMO is that everyone is letting her off on the rough life excuse and she is basking in it. I had it tough growing up myself and so did you. Instead of playing the victim you chose to make your life better. I think people who choose to play the victim resent the ones who don't for having the ability to rise above their past.

Totally Jen it's jealousy. Anyway the only reason that I struggle with it is because of all the pressure that I get from my mom to play nice. I am civil but that's it. She's been trying to force our families together for years. We just don't fit.

Totally Jen it's jealousy. Anyway the only reason that I struggle with it is because of all the pressure that I get from my mom to play nice. I am civil but that's it. She's been trying to force our families together for years. We just don't fit.

Well I can understand. It's like my brother in law. He used to get drunk and beat up my sister. She's forgiven him but the rest of us- not so much. So we tolerate him because he got sober and went to anger management or whatever and no longer beats her but nobody likes him. Still she tries to force him on us and they still have screaming matches which is not fun. They even got into a loud one on Bella's birthday.

So my sister made dinner for the family on my step-dad's birthday. She made beef and noodles which I'm not a big fan of but I can deal with it. My step-dad likes it. So anyway she put mushrooms and onions in the beef and noodles. It is widely known throughout my family that I hate mushrooms and onions.

I talked to my mom about it and said that I think that Terri did that on purpose to piss me off and she said "Ya I wondered about that too." I was shocked my mom always defends Terri but she actually agreed. Everybody knows that I hate those 2 particular ingredients. While it was my step-dad's day he would have liked it just as much had it not contained mushrooms and onions. Also she made asparagus. This is a family joke actually.

I also hate asparagus and everyone in my family knows that. So I had salad for dinner. Lord knows I could use a few more salads in my life I just thought it was kind of petty of her.

That's typical Terri.

That is rude. I detest Zara's ex husband but when I made spaghetti for them I always made a side of it with no mushrooms for him.

I'm sorry you have to deal with that Phil. From the things you've posted about your extended family many of them could use a dose of shout the hell up. She has made the life she has. No one else. As much as I love and respect my mom I've had to back her up on her attacks. She has tried to "force" me to see the poor me in family. I refuse. Phil dont sweat the small stuff. As sarcastic as you can be why didn't you just smile, look directly at her in front of everyone and say wow mushrooms and onions my favorite, Thank you. Then offer to say the blessing. My pastor said to me jealoouy/grudges are like drinking posion hoping it will kill the other person. She must be drinking alot of posion. She needs Jesus.

Actually I when I was a child I was sarcastic and I would fight with them but it got me no where. So I have been trying to take the moral high road and just stay away from her as much as possible. It's sad they live about 100yds away and we see them about 4 or 5 times a year. Basically holidays and the kids birthday's.

I was a real smart mouth when I was a child and people still treat me like that smart mouthed kid. I haven't been that kid for a long time but I'm still being punished for it. I grew up why can't they?

Because people suck Phil.

Wow, that is crazy how you are treated by your sister. I would probably have said a few things to my sister had she tried some of those things with me. You are a better person for holding your tongue. Next time, invite her to your house and make her least favorite meal for dinner. See, there I go again trying to get some revenge in. ;)

haha Mark, I think I would do the same thing

She has only been to my house a handful of times in the 10 years that I have lived there. She stayed for about 5 minutes each time and had a disgusted look on her face the entire time.

Below are the reasons why.


It's too small
We have a dog (she hate animals)
Too dirty
we don't have designer furniture
plus she just doesn't like us

Phil, honestly....you're to good to be treated this way. I'd cut my losses with that b**** if I were you

I am with Fallon here!

My sister actually came to see me twice while I was in the hospital and expressed an interest in hanging out with me after I got out.

wow, that's great if it's what you want Phil

wow, that's great if it's what you want Phil

She's a little evil but she's still my sister. BTW my brother didn't bother to even call.

She's a little evil but she's still my sister


believe me, I TOTALLY understand how you feel here

Whoa Phil that is good. Maybe you guys can bridge the gap.

It's such a confusing situation with her because one minute she is a loving sister who would do anything for me and the next minute she is a raging b@#$%. It's hard to deal with sometimes. I think I'll give her another chance and meanwhile do my best to not get to emotionally attached.

True- I guess test the waters a bit.