Brian is going through a rough time right now. I am trying to be the good girlfriend and help lift his spirits. He told me tonight he appreciates me for doing so but I need some more ideas. I feel like telling him he's awesome isn't enough when he is so down. Is there anything your wives or girlfriends do that picks you up when you are down? He is very special to me and I care about him so much it hurts to see him this way. I can't fix what's going on but I want to help him feel better. Thanks in advance.

You have to be a great listener. Even if your ideas and suggestions are not wanted or requested, just listening is an important first step. My wife will always listen to me when I am upset about something. She allows me the time to rant and will only offer her advice when I am done fuming or if I ask her what she thinks of the issue. This helps to allow me my time to get my frustrations out. I don't feel restricted as I might if she cuts me off every few words to add her thoughts. Not that I would feel restricted but I can see how that might look bad. As for me, when my wife is upset, I will hold her. Each person is different so what works for me or my wife may not work for everyone else. As long as she knows that I am there and ready to hear her when she is upset about something, that helps. Embracing her lets her know that she is safe. Not something she always needs but it does help.

This works on my hubby. I ask for his help with something I would normally take care of myself. Helping me with my task takes his mind off whatever was bothering him. Plus he feels like a champ for helping me. I hope he feels better. Cant wait to hear Phils suggestion. :grin:

Do something to surprise him. Make a special dinner, just for him. Something unexpected just to make him smile.

You have to be a great listener. Even if your ideas and suggestions are not wanted or requested, just listening is an important first step. My wife will always listen to me when I am upset about something. She allows me the time to rant and will only offer her advice when I am done fuming or if I ask her what she thinks of the issue. This helps to allow me my time to get my frustrations out. I don't feel restricted as I might if she cuts me off every few words to add her thoughts. Not that I would feel restricted but I can see how that might look bad. As for me, when my wife is upset, I will hold her. Each person is different so what works for me or my wife may not work for everyone else. As long as she knows that I am there and ready to hear her when she is upset about something, that helps. Embracing her lets her know that she is safe. Not something she always needs but it does help.

I listen to him too and that is what he was thanking me for. Plus I've given him extra affection. I like to be held myself when I am upset. But you saying this helps too. It lets me know I am already doing something that will help him.

This works on my hubby. I ask for his help with something I would normally take care of myself. Helping me with my task takes his mind off whatever was bothering him. Plus he feels like a champ for helping me. I hope he feels better. Cant wait to hear Phils suggestion. :grin:

That's a good idea.

Do something to surprise him. Make a special dinner, just for him. Something unexpected just to make him smile.

That's what I am thinking. I am going over to his place tomorrow. I am thinking of bringing him cookies.

That's what I am thinking. I am going over to his place tomorrow. I am thinking of bringing him cookies.

food is almost always a way into a man's heart!

Yeah he loves my cooking and baking. He was quite happy that I was with him last night. He said as long as I am with him. :love:

I am famous for putting a silly or lovey card or note in Phillip's lunch.

I am famous for putting a silly or lovey card or note in Phillip's lunch.

That's a good idea! Maybe I can slip one in his desk tomorrow at work. That would be a nice surprise when he goes to get a pen. Thanks!

I did that once. I put a note in hubbys jacket pocket when he went hunting. The note made in back after a week hunting in the same jacket unopened. lol

I did that once. I put a note in hubbys jacket pocket when he went hunting. The note made in back after a week hunting in the same jacket unopened. lol
haha, men :rolleyes:

Yeah he didn't find his note today but we were both busy writing up orders!

In the interest of keeping this forum Grated or at least PG i will refrain from answering this thread but if you really want to know what I think PM me ;);)

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In the interest of keeping this forum Grated or at least PG i will refrain from answering this thread but if you really want to know what I think PM me ;);)



Well... I guess there is more than one way to a man's heart! :banana:

Well... I guess there is more than one way to a man's heart! :banana:
Tee hee hee you are so right.