01 - Don't interrupt or correct him when he is telling a story.
02 - Compliment him in front of the children, your parents, his parents & friends.
03 - Be a concerned about your looks as you were when you were dating.
04 - Let him hve sometime to relax when he arrives home from work.
05 - Develop a genuine intrest in his work & hobbies
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06 - Admire him for his strength & significance.
07 - If he wants to take a lunch to work, pack it for him.
08 - Try to come home & off the phone when he gets home from work & up in the morning when he leaves.
09 - Help your kids be excited about Dad coming home.
10 - Buy him some new socks & underwear on ordinary days instead of given them as gifts on hoildays or birthdays.
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11 - Keep your bedroom tastefully decorated & clutter free.
12 - Understand when he wants to spend time enjoying sports or hobbies with his friends.
13 - Keep his favorite snack on hand.
14 - Stick to your budget.
15 - Watch his favorite sports events with him.
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16 - Try to go to bed at the same time he does, and understand if he falls asleep in the recliner after a hard day.
17 - Trade babysitting with friends so you have some nights at home alone.
18 - Keep lovemaking fresh & exciting & remember that he probably has more frequent desires than you have.
19 - Bake some homemade cookies for him to take to work.
20 - As yourself one question every day: " What's it like being married to me ?"
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good tips...I'm currently no good at #3, #5, and #11 but I'll get back there one day...well except #5, insurance bores me to death but I listen anyways :)

01 - Don't interrupt or correct him when he is telling a story.
But i will if i am right
02 - Compliment him in front of the children, your parents, his parents & friends.
Why? I don't see the need to compliment him infront of family and friends.
03 - Be a concerned about your looks as you were when you were dating.
I do, however, i would hope he would do the same (and he does)
04 - Let him hve sometime to relax when he arrives home from work.
When do i get my time to relax?? LOL
05 - Develop a genuine intrest in his work & hobbies
I watch hockey and baseball with him, but i think this is a two way street thing.
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06 - Admire him for his strength & significance.
Just because he's the "man of the house" doesn't mean we live in the 1950's.
07 - If he wants to take a lunch to work, pack it for him.
Why? Are his arms and hands painted on?
08 - Try to come home & off the phone when he gets home from work & up in the morning when he leaves.
Again why? If i am on the phone i'm not going to hang up just because he comes home. Just as he wouldn't. And if Luke is sleeping when DH goes to work, you can be sure that i am going to be sleeping as well LOL
09 - Help your kids be excited about Dad coming home.
With a 3yr old, luke doesn't need help LOL
10 - Buy him some new socks & underwear on ordinary days instead of given them as gifts on hoildays or birthdays.
LOL he buys his own.
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11 - Keep your bedroom tastefully decorated & clutter free.
Ah, i refuse to clean an area that is dirty because TWO people have made it so. Just like how he knows i have no problem cleaning the bathroom, aside from the toilet seat. I don't pee on it.
12 - Understand when he wants to spend time enjoying sports or hobbies with his friends.
Who wouldn't? Just as he understands that i like to do the same.
13 - Keep his favorite snack on hand.
Again, why wouldn't we?
14 - Stick to your budget.
15 - Watch his favorite sports events with him.
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16 - Try to go to bed at the same time he does, and understand if he falls asleep in the recliner after a hard day.
Again, i feel as if these questions or suggestions are based in a time where the man is the man of the house, and the woman is there in the background
17 - Trade babysitting with friends so you have some nights at home alone.
18 - Keep lovemaking fresh & exciting & remember that he probably has more frequent desires than you have.
19 - Bake some homemade cookies for him to take to work.
20 - As yourself one question every day: " What's it like being married to me ?"
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My appologies Karen, but these suggestions seem to me as if they were written in the 1950's. A lot of these are two way street suggestions. There are days when he gets home from work, sees how tired i am, and says "go for a bath" or "why not go to the mall or something babe....just relax".
Being a SAHM there are responsibilities that i have around the house, but again, we don't live in 1950.

see I'm totally old fashion, but he's still my equal. we take care of each other

Keep in mind that I have a book ... and I just had to share some of these ... you can take them or not ...

thanks for the input thus far !!!

see I'm totally old fashion, but he's still my equal. we take care of each other

Taking care of eachother is very important. Karen's not living in the 50's..we should all act this way toward our significant others...both men to women and women to men. Maybe more marriages would survive. Thank you for sharing Karen.

Taking care of eachother is very important. Karen's not living in the 50's..we should all act this way toward our significant others...both men to women and women to men. Maybe more marriages would survive. Thank you for sharing Karen.


:bow::bow: Thank you Steve ... that is what I like to hear ... there are so many marriage these days that last only 1 ... 2 ... 3 ... 4 years and then they call it quits ... or even less time then that ... mine has last 31 years and I proud to say that I do believe in the things that I shared !!!

Oh i wasn't trying to be intrusive or anything. And maybe its an age difference thing. Richard is my equal and i am to him as well. But i mean a lot of those suggestions are more of a like i mentioned earlier, a two way street type of suggestion.

I agree, it's important that he be just as respectful to you as you are to him. I think they key is not expecting the respect but earning it

exactly.

And i guess where is the "20 things to make your wife feel special" thread?

Feel free to start one. She was talking about making her husband feel special, not about making herself feel special.

My mom once told me... the key to a long and happy marraige is to think of the other person before you think of yourself.

I thinking that's up to the men...LOL

My mom once told me... the key to a long and happy marraige is to think of the other person before you think of yourself.<!-- google_ad_section_end -->


this is so true, but I think we both know it has to go both ways for it to work

goood idea ... Steve are you up to the challenge ? See if you can come up with about 5 things to make the wife feel special ... I will see what I can find too to help out !!!

this is so true, but I think we both know it has to go both ways for it to work

You bet it does.

goood idea ... Steve are you up to the challenge ? See if you can come up with about 5 things to make the wife feel special ... I will see what I can find too to help out !!!

Sure, I'd love to. I'm heading to lunch and will start it when I get back.

our marriage is ...

a give & take ... to be there for each other through the good times & the bad times ... we have both seen a lot of them over the many years ... he has always been there for me when I had a hard time making up my mind on something ...

He has always been there even when I have had to go in for surgery and for some of my OB - GYN CHECK UPS and he was right there with me thee entire time ...

One time that I really needed him was the day that I found out that I was diabetic and that was hard and so he has been there for throughout the last 7 years & all I have gone through ... that day was rather hard because I got home only to find out that my BABY SISTER back home in NH tried to COMMIT SUCIDE and so it was a BIG BLOW to be hit with 2 things in 1 day and so where was my husband ... right there beside me to hold me !!!

So, that is my feedback !!!

Sure, I'd love to. I'm heading to lunch and will start it when I get back.


thank you Steve ... :bow::bow:

I would never say this to him (or I won't yet) but Brian would make a good husband and is very considerate of me. He laughs because I do try to take care of him all the time but I am old fashioned as well. Because we are not married and don't live together I have to do different things to make him feel special. I have been known to make him home made chicken soup when he is sick. He was so excited and says sometimes he exposes himself to sick people just so I'll do it again LOL!

he exposes himself to sick people


well that's not very nice of him...LOL

well that's not very nice of him...LOL

LOL! That came out the wrong way completely.