A co-worker of mine has a 14 year old daughter who recently has gotten into the Goth. Less than 2 years ago she was typical pony tailed 12 year girl, now she seems to have gone to the complete opposite direction. Interesting how kids can suddenly go in a very different direct almost over night. Makes me wonder of our daughter going to do something like. I don't think so, but then again I never would have suspected 2 years ago that this girl would change so much.

Well, I think it's okay as long as they don't think about dangerous things. I went to a school where everyone the was same so I haven't been exposed to goth.

My son was considered Goth when he was in high school. He wore nothing but black/dark clothes, dyed his hair black, wore black nail polish and eyeliner (although not to school), and just generally freaked out a lot of people, including my mother. LOL

I see nothing wrong with it in most cases. As long as the clothing is appropriate then she should wear what she wants.
Of course I want my daughter to be the goody goddy girl, but that is not how it always works out. As long as she does good in school, is a respectable girl, then that is all I can ask for in that area.
Now I will be honost she will not be wearing cruddy dirty clothes or whatnot to church. But I wouldn't force her to dress like she is 2 when she is 14 either.

I don't see a peoblem with it as long as they are still good kids.

I welcome unconventialism (I just made up a word, yay for me.), lol. I'd prolly be thrilled if my child dyed her hair purple or something. I think I'm too socially liberal. :)

I'm hoping my kids don't get into the goth thing. They're both very conservative so far, but we'll see. If they do, I'll deal with it tactfully and with respect, as long as they're good kids and doing fairly well in school.

That said, before marriage I was a 4-H summer camp counselor and had a few teen junior counselors working with me. One was a beautiful 14 yr. old girl with long, strawberry blonde hair and fair freckled skin. Smart girl with a good head on her shoulders. She often talked about goth, and how many of her friends were into it. I about died of shock when she showed up one Monday totally dressed in black - clothes, hair, nail polish, lipstick ... I was cool with it for her sake, but honestly, she looked AWFUL. With her fair skin and freckles, black did not do her justice. :sad:

Yeah, you can't freak out about it.

Like a lot of things kids will try looking/acting different, but if it is not truly who they are deep down, they loose interest and move on after a short period of time. Some however, will get into strange things because they truly connect with it.

Because I never went through a phase like this, I can't reflect back and understand what motivates some kids to be radically different in some form. I tend not to think our daughter will try out different looks, but I don't know for certain.

Back before goth was cool my best friend Maggie was a goth. She had ever changing hair colors (my favorite was blonde with pink streaks) and wn ever changing personality. Goth one day and hippy the next and preppy the day after that. I never wanted to be pigeonholed. Kids are going to want to show their unique identities. Maggie was still a straight A student and not into drugs and respectful to adults.
Okay for this on the computer- Maggie and I in high school. I am the one in the longer skirt:
http://i11.photobucket.com/albums/a157/Jenibear612/maggiesig.jpg

My son was considered Goth when he was in high school. He wore nothing but black/dark clothes, dyed his hair black, wore black nail polish and eyeliner (although not to school), and just generally freaked out a lot of people, including my mother. LOL

Teresa, It sounds like your son out grow it and moved on. If that is the case, how did he go from Goth to where is he is at to day?

Jenilouise, in the picture you appear pretty happy, and that is what counts. :)

Teresa, It sounds like your son out grow it and moved on. If that is the case, how did he go from Goth to where is he is at to day?

Getting a full-time job at a business with a dress code was the biggest part of it...and he still goes a little Goth on his own time.

Jenilouise, in the picture you appear pretty happy, and that is what counts. :)

Yep but I always am with Maggie because she is so fun. She has the best personality and I love her to this day. I have always joked that I have to find a man like her.