Has anyone had to deal with your child coming home to let you know about this great new saying that another child taught them at school only to find out part of that saying includes a bad word? That's what happened with my daughter the other day. I don't recall the exact saying but it included a word similar to horror but it had nothing to do with scary movies. :mad:

She has been out of school for the past couple of days due to winter break and her first day back is on Wednesday. I am thinking of calling the teacher but I am not sure where to even begin as this is something I haven't had to deal with yet. And she is only in first grade. I want to get all the facts straight but I'm afraid that the teacher won't have a clue that this went on since my daughter claims it happened during lunch hour. Do I demand action from the teacher, require a call to the parent of the other child, or something else?

I would for sure call the teacher...first grade is to young for this

The thing is, is what is going to happen? The teachers can not be there for every single converstaion between every single student. I mean, I totally agree that the teacher needs to be made aware so that she can make sure to pay closer attention when possible, but that's about all they can do. I would think that the best way to deal with it if your child learns a new word you don't like would be to explain to them it is not a nice word and we don't use it. I would even go as far as to tell my daughter that word is used to make women feel bad or whatever an age-appropriate meaning for the word may be, so she understands WHY it is not a nice word.

I agree with Kim.

I expect that our daughter has heard pretty much everything by now, and middle school is probably where it starts getting pretty bad with some kids.

I have to go back to my new found, freeing philosophy that I cannot control the behavior of others, sadly. I might tell the teacher that the word is being circulated among the kids and she should be on the look out (hear out?) for it, but nothing more than that. I would definitely tell my daughter that that word is unacceptable in my home. Actually, one way I encouraged my children to use different language was to tell my children to think up other words to show that they had a vast vocabulary. One of my sons is brilliant with this. He and his school mates have taken to using "donkey" instead of the three letter word that it could be. Apart from making us laugh, it encourages him to use language around the younger ones that I don't mind them using and if they hear the unsanitized versions, they know the sanitized ones.

The thing is, is what is going to happen? The teachers can not be there for every single converstaion between every single student. I mean, I totally agree that the teacher needs to be made aware so that she can make sure to pay closer attention when possible, but that's about all they can do. I would think that the best way to deal with it if your child learns a new word you don't like would be to explain to them it is not a nice word and we don't use it. I would even go as far as to tell my daughter that word is used to make women feel bad or whatever an age-appropriate meaning for the word may be, so she understands WHY it is not a nice word.
I would for sure do this but with kids this young I would also call the teacher to let her know. Not really to cause a big stink about it but I think she should be made aware that such words are being said while these children are in her care...much older than 1st grade however I wouldn't bother. I just think at this age the kids are using words they don't understand and it would do some good for the teacher to know so she can keep her ears open to the little conversations going on around the class. As a parent if it were my child saying these words in class I would like to be made aware so I could put a stop to it KWIM

We are going to bring the issue up with the teacher. Mostly so she knows what occurred. I won't make too much of a big deal about this by getting the other parents involved. I do not like what was said but I feel that I need to give the teacher a chance to monitor the situation. Also, this apparently happened during lunch hour when the teacher wasn't around anyway.

Glad to hear you're not going to be one of those kind of parents that storm to the school making demands that the teacher and the school solve a problems that far beyond their control.

Kids are going to hear things from other kids all the time that we don't feel are appropriate or acceptable. We always just told ours that just because someone else says it, that doesn't mean we allow it in OUR house. As for what the school can do....probably not much unless it's actually HEARD by an adult there. You might call/email the teacher to give her a heads up, so she can be listening a little more closely to conversations.

well how did the convo with the teacher go. I agree with everyone else by the way. The teacher should be made aware but not in a negtive tone to her

well how did the convo with the teacher go. I agree with everyone else by the way. The teacher should be made aware but not in a negtive tone to her My wife left her a voice mail message to call her back and the teacher never returned her call. :uhh: She will probably talk to her tomorrow though. And we both already discussed that we are just letting the teacher know on an FYI basis because at least this time there was nothing she could have done about it at the time since she wasn't around. This has just given us another opportunity to talk to our daughter about what is acceptable language in our family and what is not.

This was actually a conversation my son and I had yesterday. He told me one boy in his class called another boy a "beach" but of course they knew what he was saying.

My DS said, they just want people to think they're cool. He also mentioned to me that he was outside riding his Rip Stick when the middle school bus drove by and for no reasonal at all one of the boys flipped him off.

I told him that as along as he knews that they're just words then I wouldn't worry about it. With that said, they are not words you should use because they are inappropriate and rude. He agreed and ensured me that he doesn't use foul language at school. I guarantee if he did he'd be the ONLY one to get caught and I'd get a call from his teacher.

This is completely off topic, but what the heck is a Rip Stick?

After leaving two voice mail messages for the teacher to call us back, she still had not. I ended up taking my daughter to school today so I took it upon myself to go and speak with the teacher. I explained, in a very nice way, what had happened and who our daughter said was the child that told her this great new saying. The teacher then said that this other child spoke a lot of "street lingo" (her words) and that she could see how this might have happened. She promised to talk with the girl to make sure she understands that this type of talk is not acceptable for first graders.