Mark

No, I am not pregnant. That is not why I am posting in this section.

Anyway... for all the ladies who have been pregnant, have you ever been in a public place and had someone you don't know approach you and feel your belly? They can obviously see you are pregnant but without asking they just figure you are open game? How about once you have a child they feel like they can play peek-a-boo with your newborn just because your baby is cute?

This almost happened to my wife with our daughter when she was still a baby. I just remembered about the situation. It was in the grocery store and some older lady told my wife something like "I would pinch her cheeks but I am sick right now so I don't want her to get sick too."

WHAT!?!?!?



This lady was actually planning to touch my daughter just because she was a baby in a shopping cart and she was cute. If I were my wife, I would have decked the lady if she got close. I think people automatically assume that this type of attention is wanted by the parent that is with the baby. When in reality nobody should ever think this is normal when the person is a complete stranger.

How about everyone else? Have you gone through something like this?

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RaisingHavoc

Only once. We had a yard sale and a grandpa type picked up my son and held him talking to him then kissed him on the cheek. He ment well but I did have both fists clenched. I felt like an ass for reacting that way to someone with nothing but affection for kids. My hubby and I talked to him for about 30 min after it happened. Just a grandpa acting like a grandpa to a strangers adorable innocent child. Nobody ever got near my belly. I felt completely vunerable when I was pregnant. I was always on alert for danger. I would have used my awesome ninja powers on a stranger touching my belly. Ha Yaaa!!

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Mark

That is great. I certainly don't want to find out what that would do to a person.

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Mango

I have no idea why STRANGERS feel compelled to do that. I even ask when it's my best friend. It's her body, not mine

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Kaytee

only friends or family have every tried to touch my belly. Bit uncomfortable but livale. Now someone I didn't know, yay thats strange!

People didn't touch Nichole much when she was ababy, since I wore her in a mei Tai. They talked to her and played with her but rarely touched her.

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Fallon

I had a group of strangers come up to me at a veiwing for a co-worker of my DH who passed away. I didn't know these people even a little and they were all touching me. I thought I was going to puke actually, I really hate being touched

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jenilouise

OMG like you wouldn't believe! I hated it. And if you're gonna peek in on my baby get the freaking sex right for goodness sake. Do not say, "He is adorable" to my princess in a pink dress. I am just going to think you are an idiot.

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Mark

Jeni, that is so true. Our daughter always wore pink (well most of the time) and whatever she did wear had flowers or girly designs. Yet constantly we would hear how cute our boy was. If they don't know whether a baby is a boy or a girl, they should say "Your baby is cute..." That was very frustrating.

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Xero

OH MAN I know. I HATE HATE HATED being touched when I was pregnant. I would get so embarassed, and I couldn't even count the amount of times people just walked right up to me and started feeling me up, you know??? Drove me nuts. I also hated certain terms people would use for me being really pregnant. One in specific, I couldn't STAND people telling me I looked like I was "ready to pop". I just wanted to look at them and be like "Well you're fat and ugly." That's how rude I feel that statement is lol. Call me crazy, I just think it's kind of a crude term and very innappropriate. I'm weird.

I had like dozens of people touching me everywhere I went it seemed. God would I love it if people would learn to ask. However, when it comes to people walking up and talking to/playing with my baby I actually like that. I love it when someone comes up and can't resist my buggy because they think he's so cute. The way I look at it, people love babies and it really warms your heart to see one. They're so innocent and sweet and they really touch your heart, and most of these people have had a baby themselves and it goes so fast that they just want to see it again, you know? Even in a stranger's possession. I see babies all the time, and if I was brave enough to ask and people would let me, I would hold every single one of them. I wouldn't kiss them though lol. I'd say there's definitely a limit on the touching though, and people can also be terribly careless with being sick too. I do hate that, people touching my baby when they're sick. But, you know... a tickle, a hand hold, or a little hair touch on my baby would seem fine to me. I think it's cute, and sweet, and I don't have a problem lighting up someone's day as long as it doesn't bother Eli. And trust me. He will let you know.

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Xero

HAHA yeah isn't THAT the truth!! I understand it's not always easy to tell the gender of a little baby, but gosh when I have him in a blue stroller dressed in all blue with a football logo and sucking a blue binky and wrapped in a blue blanket, and you're still calling him a beautiful little girl, then somethings wrong.

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