Mark

I'm sure some of you have experienced this in the past. Maybe you were the one to move. I think you did Kaytee, right? Anyway, my youngest sister is moving out of state and she will be about 16 hours away (in South Carolina). Her and her husband are moving for better opportunities. They have three young children and my family is extremely close. So this is hard on everyone. I can understand why they are moving but it is incredibly hard knowing they are leaving behind so many people. I saw them for the last time today until they move and it was sad. Any advice from anyone that knows someone close that is far away or if you yourself are far away from your family?

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PhilBilly

All you can do is just try hard to keep the connection going. Visit when you can but also stay connected through email, chat and phone calls. Encourage her to get a webcam and get one yourself. Then you can talk for free over the net and actually see each other.

My sister moved away to Florida when I was a teenager. Also my brother was in the Navy for much of the time that I was growing up. They both moved back to my area and it is better now.

One thing that you should not do (and I am not insinuating that you are) is make her feel guilty for leaving or try to talk her out of it. We all have to spread our wings and be free to do what's best for us.

I joined the military when I was 19. That was only 4 years but I wrote a lot of letters and sent a lot of pictures and came home when I could. It's not easy to leave home but sometimes it is necessary.

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I second the webcam, get one for your parents as well. Email and call as much as possible and visit when you can

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jenilouise

I keep in touch with my family using Windows Live with the webcam and microphone. We video call each other so we can see and hear eachother and more importantly so they can see and hear the kids (Natalia is not quite old enough to type LOL.) Not only did I move away with the bulk of the grandkids but Chris lives in North Carolina with his little Aubrey and both of my stepsisters and their kids live in Arizona. My mom lives in California with only my sisters little girl close by.

Just be understanding. My mom has never made me feel bad about leaving. She understands I did what I had to in order to support my family. I can call my best friend out there when I am homesick and she does the same. It is hard being on either end (I remember when Christopher left for the Army). Just make sure you stay close and support eachother through it.

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Mark

Unfortunately some things have been said while my sister and brother-in-law were planning this move that made them feel like they were making a mistake. They were confronted by several family members who felt they were leaving for the wrong reasons. It is hard for my family to just accept something like this without putting up a fight.

I like the webcam idea. I am already planning that. My sister has a webcam already that they have never used. So now I will get one for my parents and that way any of us can use it. Thanks for all the comments and suggestions everyone.

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PennQuaker

I wanted nothing more than to be far away from Alabama and now I want to be closer.

jenilouise

That's going to happen. I heard it too but I had to get out. I needed above all to support my children.

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Mark

Yeah, they left today (Thursday) and I guess there were some words between my mother and sister. Not a good way to part ways but maybe now with them so far away they can work on supporting how each person feels. I told my mom to not make her feel guilty or continue to argue over the decision. What is done is done. I still plan to get my parents a webcam and that should help when they want to see their three grandchildren that are now far away.

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Neal

Mark, my life experience says "Don't worry about it too much". I say this because certain people will remain in your life no matter what you do, or don't do. I have a buddy who has been a friend since the 4th grade. Time\distance has no impact.

The flip side is that people come and go in everyone lives, often they are people who have no real connection with each other, such as people we work with or some of our neighbors. But, there are friends\family who we have a close connection with for many years who do go off in other directions, and they become more distant and contact become less frequent. Either way, it is really not a big deal, because it is just part of life. Sometimes people come, then go, then come back.

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jenilouise

Very true Neal. My best friend in California is still my best friend all the way in Oregon. I miss her but we talk every week and we visit.

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