absolutly. It is wrong if they undermine you. More like I don't care if I didn't say othewise lol. Though Nichole sees her grandparents only a few times a year so I think allowmore.
I love my MIL to death but.. she is very passive and has a very difficult time saying no. DD has her health problems and there have been several times I have "caught" DD outside with Grandma when GM is smoking. Theres been a few times DD has been in her jammys. DD KNOWS shes not to be outside in her PJ's and she KNOWS her health problems, they both do but it still happens and I have to be the heavy in the most polite way possible. DH for some reason always seems to miss this. Thats not spoiling but kinda on the flip side where grandparents ignore rules.